steve: i think that this is both a place for personal thoughts and to communicate with friends... which is why i don't always leave comments. if i feel that it's a big issue and it makes me think, i just write it here. and don't worry, you won't lose us as friends, otherwise we would have lost each other a long time ago ;-). also, if i didn't ever share my personal thoughts, i wouldn't say how pj really is gay.